9 Tips To Have A Sex Life After Kids

So you’ve had a baby and you’re on top of the world. Your little bundle of joy has arrived and there are a lot of things that are going to change – your sleep pattern, your meal times and let’s not forget your sex life. Being on call 24×7 can be mind-numbing and extremely exhausting. Sex may seem like a distant memory but it’s extremely important for you to get “back on the horse”.  Restoring that level of intimacy with your partner is important and we’re going to tell you how.

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Here are 9 tips to have a sex life after kids

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Take The Help Of Babysitters Or Grandparents: When you know that your child is safe with the grandparents or a trusted babysitter, you can try and put your mind to rest. Leave the kids at the grandparents or get a sitter to come in and go to a hotel. Going to a hotel is romantic and kind of steamy. Just what you need to give you that push.

Don’t Sleep With The Kids: There is nothing better than having a little being snuggle into you and keep you warm at night. However, for the sake of your sex life get them into the habit of sleeping in their own room. This way when the mood comes knocking you won’t have to worry about the kids overhearing or seeing anything they’re not meant to.

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Lock Your Room: We all know about kids following you everywhere including to the loo! Making sure your room is locked takes the stress off you-you don’t have to worry about them walking in. If they do try and come in, a locked door ensures you have time to get presentable before you answer the door.

Love Your Body: You will be exhausted on most days and may not be in the mood for some sex. You need to feel good about yourself and usually, some “me” time helps – hit the gym, go to the parlour etc. Once you’ve kind of rejuvenated yourself, you will be in a  better place to reciprocate your partner’s actions and feelings.

Don’t Just Talk About Kids All The Time: Kids will always be THE most important thing in your life. But you need to remember that your partner and you are also a couple. Reconnecting with your partner about things you both enjoy/enjoyed is a good way to go. The sex is sure to follow.

Flirt With Your Partner: Do you remember how good it felt to flirt with your partner? Just because kids are around it doesn’t mean you stop. If you kiss your husband/wife in front of your kid, it’s perfectly natural. It actually shows them that it’s not something wrong. We’re sure you can remember all the sexy ways you flirted before the baby arrived. Time to bring them back in the game.

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Remove Time For Your Partner: Spend quality time together and try and make time for the things you enjoyed as a couple before kids arrived on the scene. Making time shows that you care for them and love them. Isn’t that how and why you started having sex in the first place – ages ago. So go for it – again!

Go For Romantic Weekend Getaways With Your Partner: We know easier said than done but try to get out and away from it all. If you have someone you trust and can leave the kids with then you should. It works wonders and puts the spark back in your sex life and love life. Even if have to take your child along, a change of place usually works wonders for couple time.

Stress Intimacy And Not Sex: So we understand that if you are super tired and sex just doesn’t hold any kind of appeal. But any kind of physical contact and comfort can be a stepping stone towards a renewed sex life.  Hugging, holding hands or sitting close to each other will help you revive your love and you never know what happens next.

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