Love or hate the ‘hot Facebook Mom’? What’s your excuse?

You’ve obviously read all the conversations about the ‘hot Facebook mom’ and how she posted a picture of her and her 3 kids with a controversial tag line? In my opinion more inspirational than controversial!

Ofcourse she wanted to get popular, don’t we all want to do that as entrepreneurs or promote the business we are in or more over expect responses to the pictures we post on various social networking platforms?

When I say I find her headline inspirational its only because as moms we just let everything else take priority over the one thing we love doing and that is getting back in shape. We hoard our pre-pregnancy jeans with the eternal hope that they will fit me just like they did earlier. But darling ofcourse you need to workout for that and ofcourse you need to eat right and be extremely disciplined. You can talk and create empty chatter at parties about how women who look good and fit would be bad moms. Please stop judging. Stop always worrying about what people will think and say about you and changing your priorities in that order.

If she can have 3 kids in 3 consecutive years and that too boys, no nanny and 2 businesses then I have tremendous respect for you lady. For all those women who have been accusing her of fat shaming and calling her obnoxious are probably looking for their excuse. Listen up mommy, she is not saying fat is bad but being fit is cool and you could do that too!

As moms we are always trying to hunt for an excuse to skip that morning workout with either a late night, or a test coming up, or sleepless nights or just a bad day at work and I am sure here this lady is working her ass off(quite literally, I mean). What’s your excuse?â€_x009d_ The picture has gone viral, with more than 16 million views on Facebook, and has generated more than 12,000 comments. And while much of the input has been of the supportive “you go, girlâ€_x009d_ variety, a lot of it is tagged as fat shaming, false advertising, bad mommy, fake and obnoxious too. In an exclusive interview with Shine she said:

“I wanted to inspire people,â€_x009d_ she explains, adding that the “What’s your excuse?â€_x009d_ part was simply a borrowed, popular phrase that’s been used in various “fitspirationâ€_x009d_ campaigns. “I wanted to say, ‘I know you think you don’t have time if you have kids. But if I can do it, you can do it, too.’â€_x009d_ 

A recovering bulimic. Kang says she understands why some people reacted so defensively. “I think people struggle with their weight,â€_x009d_ she notes. “When you add on being a mother — and the pressures we face to have it all and be everything, including fit — the expectations are so high. I think some moms saw the picture and just said, ‘This is ridiculous.’â€_x009d_ But still, she says, “I felt really frustrated. Being called a bad mother and a bad person definitely hurts.â€_x009d_

Here is her apology that’s really not an apology: “I’m sorry you took an image and resonated with it in such a negative way. I won’t go into details that I struggled with my genetics, had an eating disorder, work full time owning two businesses, have no nanny, am not naturally skinny and do not work as a personal trainer,â€_x009d_ she wrote, in part. “What I WILL say is this. What you interpret is not MY fault. It’s yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head. I didn’t create them. You created them. So if you want to continue ‘hating’ this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life.â€_x009d_

She got support and criticism with comments like “You are part of the body shaming problem that is going on in North America and other parts of the world,â€_x009d_ and “You are a bully with a super inflated sense of your own self.â€_x009d_ Many others, though, rallied in defense of Kang, with “Never apologize,â€_x009d_ “Get a life and leave this woman alone,â€_x009d_ and “Well done!â€_x009d_

I found this bit of having an FAQ page on her personal life really interesting:  For example: “Do you work?â€_x009d_ (Yes. She owns two small residential care facilities for the elderly.) “Do you have a nanny?â€_x009d_ (No.) “Are those your kids? They all look different.â€_x009d_ (“I have to say this is the funniest comment I’ve read. Of course, my children look like both the mother and father,â€_x009d_ she writes. “I am half Malaysian Chinese and Filipina. My husband is a Caucasian mix of German, French, Norwegian and Spanish. They are all my kids.â€_x009d_)

Kang says she works out five to six days a week, about an hour at a time, doing a half-hour of strength training and a half-hour of cardio — running, the stair climber, or a spin or Zumba class. She adds that, while it might seem amazing that she can fit in regular exercise while raising three kids and working, she structures her time in ways that make it all work. She watches no TV, for example, wakes up at 6 a.m., and, while she’s at the park with her children, “I’m working out. I’m not sitting there on my iPhone.â€_x009d_ And she gets plenty of help from her husband, David Casler.

Kang concludes that much in life is mind over matter — whether it’s recovering from an attack like her husband’s or staying in slamming shape while raising a brood of boys. “It’s really where your mind is,â€_x009d_ she says, referring to the different ways that people might interpret her photo. “I just hope that the person who feels completely overwhelmed can see they can control their own destiny. To know that there’s no excuse for not making time for yourself.â€_x009d_

Well I don’t know if you love her or hate her but its important to take control of your life and definitely take out time for yourself. We are not the only women who have delivered babies and can’t manage to find time for anything at all.

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